...And Work on Your Weaknesses

While I agree with my counterpart, and it should be obvious that one should work to their strengths, I feel it is equally obvious (yet completely ignored) that if something is your weakness, you may want to improve it by working on it with a qualified authority. Just as most 'normal' humans don't have an innate procedural skill at anything whatsoever, it makes pretty good sense that if you really suck at something to the degree that it is damaging, the smart think to do is to stop the damage that's being done by working on it.

Take, for example, the white wide receiver from Middleton, Wisconsin, who needs to work about four-thousand times harder than the African American from Miami Beach, an individual who lacks good 'instincts' at, say, dating, should probably listen to the authority of someone who seems to have things figured out (rather than associating themselves with someone in the same boat as them, as people often do). Think about it, if you continuously have chaotic relationships and have HIV as a result of such, do you really want to be listening to your advice on relationships?

This relates to the use of cognitive behavioral therapy to reverse some of the damage done to people when they're abused during childhood: the thing that distinguishes humans as uniquely capable of changing their behavior drastically is called neuroplasticity. Neuroplasticity refers to the fact that the brain reorganizes itself based on where neurons or synapses need to be appropriated. For instance, if one really sucks at Math, and overcompensates by spending a drastic amount of time working on it, neurological changes with respect to synaptical connections can and will result from the work being done. And if someone had serious deficits resulting from molestation or abuse, they can cause changes in the brain to reverse these deficiencies, if they do the therapeutic work. In layman terms, if you want to change, you can biologically cause changes in who you are, if you're willing to do the work.

But often that requires listening to others, which is an apparent weakness in the overly individualistic "me me me" society today, so scratch that.